OK, heres the pictures -
We have two transits. Both the same year and model.
They keyfob on the left is from Transit 1, they key on the right is from Transit 2

Transit 1 is used by two drivers (myself and another guy) so we need both keys and fobs.
Transit 2 is only used by by my son. Hence his spare is perfect and has never been used.
I cant just swap the circuit board as this wont operate Transit 1. I thought maybe it was just the rubber case that was wearing thin, but it isnt. Its the three little nipples that have been compressed by constant use.
When I press the nipples on my sons spare you can hear it click. When I press the nipples on my spare you cant hear anything.
This my circuit board - discoloured nipples and flat

This is my sons spare keyfob - lovely and clean

The rubber housing is fine. I've tried swapping them over.
Is there some way I can re-code the circuitboard for my sons van spare keyfob to make it activate my doors?