Long time before posting in this thread!
wel when the van was in and had the box out , I thought to change the fuel tank maybe it would solve the problem.
I had an diesel tank taken off a factroy fitted diesel van :
The diesel tank seems the same siz as the petrol one but in the bottom it has some differences:

Most notably the difference is that from the inside the offset in the botom is rounded by a sheet metal not to allow the diesel fuel to shake violently in the tank and to keep diesel concentrated there when low on fuel
and these are their respective sender units:

For now the change of the tank seems to have solved completley the problem

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