I don't know the technical term for the sound (contacts on the starter relay or solenoid closing?) but thats the noise you get when the battery hasn't got enough juice.
For what its worth...
I'm sorry to hear you are having such a nightmare with this, I tried to make the guide as straightforward as possible, but of course it has the omission of the new style tensioner (that I have never used) the one in the diagrams posted above and the one you are using I assume, and the method of operating it is different.
As to the timing...
From what I remember when I was playing with the clutch and flywheel, there is only one hole big enough to accept the timing pin (oo-err), there are other holes of smaller diameter, so if you are using the correct pin size and its installed fully, then the timing is correct.
Here is a very bad pic of my flywheel
http://i226.photobucket.com/albums/dd19 ... ywheel.jpg Timing hole bottom right.