Just a final update unless anyone else is having similar issues. I have been driving van with new lift pump fitted and the whistle has gradually got quieter and now is gone completely. So I don't know exactly how but it seems to have fixed it after all. Needed about 50miles of driving. Perhaps some air in the system has been gradually pushed out?
To answer the point that others have managed without a pump, my van is a massive a-class motorhome (imagine winnebago) and with 100l of water and 4 people and a very unaerodynamic shape I think the fuel demand might be higher on average than a usual van?
I did check the rest of the engine bay, exhaust etc all totally tight no sign of any loose bolts, I did find a tiny crack in my heater pipe but have sealed it and didn't fix the issue so assuming that wasn't it.
Thanks again for all the help, it's so important having this forum as most garages here won't go near an old transit.
Cheers