I think I know the answer already, but wanting to confirm before shelling out and getting the van up in the air again

2.4, DI, RWD, 2005 plate, 108,000 miles.
I've driven it some good distances this week, and it's not skipped a beat at all. But, if I hold the gear stick for more than a few seconds I feel like I'll end up with Reynaud's syndrome! It's not a particularly large movement, but it's very high frequency and makes my hand tingle if I hold it too long. It is rev related rather than speed. At about 1200rpm it vibrates considerably slower but also with considerably more lateral movement. The higher frequency vibration is also transmitted to the pedals and on occasion to the steering wheel. Seems to be worse when first started before the engine warms up.
When downshifting to come to a roundabout or slower traffic, when I release the clutch I hear a short 'chirping' sound at just beyond the bite point, which I initially thought was the belt tensioner (although that's relatively new) as it sounds like a worn bearing getting grumpy. But it only happens when downshifting.
While driving the van sounds, for want of a better description, throaty. Like something's not quite right with her. She pulls OK (for a 90 lol). Gear shifts are smooth (now I've changed the gearbox oil) and there's no codes. I don't think she sounds bad enough for it to be diesel knock, but she does sound like she's noisier/throatier than I'd expect.
From what I've seen online, this could be DMF failing, but what level of vibration through the gearstick is normal as she's an old van, and what is DMF failing?
Thanks for all your help previously everyone, the speedo is working fine now I tightened up the output shaft nut, and the kangaroo jumping at 3000 rpm is also fixed since I adjusted the tension of the turbo wastegate actuator
